David Geurin posted this article on Twitter. He said, “Influence happens when your example shows up in someone. It might be helpful or harmful. Kindness amplifies influence.”
Geurin states the following 5 amplifiers are most important if you want to influence someone:
1. Relationship.
Long term relationships seep into your bones, for good or harm. For example, you never fully escape an abusive relationship.
2. Expertise.
Influence isn’t what you say, it’s what you skillfully do.
3. Consistency.
The things you occasionally do have less influence than daily practice.
4. Credibility.
A promise not kept is influence lost. Respect supercharges influence.
5. Good Will.
Generosity amplifies influence. Manipulation obstructs influence. Zig Ziglar said, “You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.” This formula is true to the degree that helping others is sincere.
The more you’re in it for others, the more influence you earn.
Positive influence fills others with Joy. They’re delighted when you say, “You’re like your mom.”
Coercion and compliance invite resistance and resentment. Prolonged compliance makes people feel weak.
Positive influence, in the end, makes people feel powerful.