July 12, 2018

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand (Part 1)

"Before I can walk in another’s shoes I must first remove my own."
- Unknown Author



  1. Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood means listen first, talk second; see things from another person’s point of view before sharing your own. When was the last time you tried walking in someone else’s shoes? What was the experience like – actually trying to consider another person’s point of view or idea before sharing yours? Describe what happened and what you learned. Share with classmates. In groups of 2 or 4, write your definitions of the following styles: Spacing Out, Pretend Listening, or Selective Listening Word Listening, Self-Centered Listening, Genuine Listening.
  2. The following activity is about the information on pages 168 – 171. Mirroring is repeating back in your own words what another person is saying and feeling. You don’t judge or give advice. Read the following statement: “I feel so ugly. Nobody will ever ask me to dance with them.” The mirroring response could be: “It sounds like you are worried about not being asked to dance.” How would you respond by using mirroring to the following statements?

“No, you are not going out tonight!”

“You said I was the only one you wanted to be with, but that’s not what I heard!”