5 Basic Needs We Behave For

We are all trying to be happy!  In order to be happy, we need to meet each of our 5 basic needs.  They are Love & Belonging – the need to feel connected, included, a part of a group, friendship, loved, that sense of belonging Power – the need to feel successful, competent, capable, confident […]

My Job/Your Job

My Job/Your Job is an activity to do with teacher/students, your own children/parents at home, principals/vice-principals/secretaries, educational assistant/student(s), or any place where you want to clarify what each of the jobs/roles of the positions are.  It is an activity that is done with both partners where there is a discussion of whose job is what […]

Five Positions of Control

There are five ways that people attempt to control each other: punisher, guilter, buddy, monitor, and manager. Position 1 – Punisher The punisher uses anger, criticism, humiliation, or sarcasm.  When we use this approach we are often yelling or pointing.   Punishers are recognized by their threats, implied or otherwise, which usually say a version of, […]

Shoulder to Shoulder

Do you know the difference between toe to toe and shoulder to shoulder?  Have you ever found yourself standing toe to toe with a child?  How about your spouse?  How about a colleague?  How do you feel when this is happening?  Is it a good feeling?  Is your stomach tense or calm?  Are you flushed?  […]

Change the Way You Think About It!

If you want to change an unpleasant activity for yourself, experiment with shifting your perception.  If you go to an event you are dreading, decide in advance if you are going to do it to avoid discomfort, to please someone else, or to be the person you want to be – caring, responsible, committed.  (It’s […]

Technology & Relationships

Recently I was with a group of university students, and I asked them how they were handling the use of smart phones when they met for lunch or dinner. They said that much of the time it wasn’t an issue because no one really minded. But they also were getting creative when it was an […]